For those concerned about the domination, verbal talk, & humiliating commands, please read my healthy suggestions regarding sensual verbalization:
Our subconscious minds accept what we say but only according to our beliefs. They make no judgments. They love us enough to give us what we declare, however, we have a choice here. We are not stuck because we can choose again and again as to what to believe. For example, as a child, we may have chosen to believe in Santa Claus, but as we grew older we chose again something different to believe about Mr. Claus.
If I say to you, “You’re a purple potato, you’re a purple potato...” – do you choose to believe that you ARE a purple potato?
On the other side, if say to you, “You are my sweetie pie, you are my cup cake, I just love you.” – do you choose to believe that you ARE a piece of pastry? If hearing “You’re my bitch”, or “You’re a slut, you worthless bitch” or “You’re my faggit slave” is pleasing to hear during the sensual foreplay of sexuality, do you believe that you REALLY are a bitch, slut or faggit? It’s YOUR choice. What others say that I DO choose to accept - is only with MY consent. The difference here is if you choose to, or choose not to believe it. Why we like to hear certain words during everyday life or during the sensual experience is not important; we simply like it. Same as the concept that we either do like or do not like anchovies – it’s not important. Some like them some do not. On another angle, if you were told, “You CAN do it, you are wonderful!” Well, you WANTED to believe it, so you chose to believe it and then you WERE able to do it and felt wonderful!
The bottom line is that we give our own consent to believe what is said to us or not to believe it. If we are mature enough to keep our fantasy life separate from our reality life, then we can enjoy the pleasing euphemisms during sexuality and during everyday life. It’s OUR choice. If you cannot keep them separate and they creep over to the other part of your world, then you may want to seek help to stop yourself from doing that or you can select to not read about them or ask to hear them from others.
Therefore if you keep "fantasy" in the realm of a sensual fantasy and "reality" in the real world, there should be no problem with having a safe, healthy, satisfying and happy relationship